Value System: a man's perspective

1. Male, 27

• Everything, including hearing from GOD about her
• Looks
• Attitude toward GOD, Work, family, husband, money
• Future life plan
• Cooking game
• Relationships with men, women, family

• The thing is that even if a woman doesn't meet my 'list,' I’m still going to marry her, if I feel GOD leading me. I feel like people get too caught up in a list. Just because a person doesn't meet one point on the list doesn't mean that the person isn't GOD sent. For me it’s not really about a list. The list is a good guide, but at the end of the day, it’s about who GOD leads me too over everything. That takes a sincere, earnest, discerning heart.

2. Male, 28

• A dedicated believing Christian i.e. someone spiritual
• Someone of good moral character, and people should generally have the same opinion about her
• Someone teachable and willing to learn
• Because I am reserved, I’ll like someone more outgoing than myself
• Someone who has a love for knowledge and learning

3. Male, 24

• A submissive woman, after Gods heart. 
• Supportive of what I do. 
• Good communication skills. 
• Good sense of humor. 
• Mature. 
• Classy – knows how to conduct herself relative to the area that we are or the setting. 
• Knows how to put herself together. 
• Encouraging 
• Spiritual growth.
• Nice rack and a deso size booty.

4. Male, 25

• BORN AGAIN
• Teachable
• Intelligent
• Fierce 
• Quite submissive
• Should be sensitive to my person and appeals
• Furthermore, should have great foresight and capacity for my future

5. Male, 24

• The most important thing in a woman is her relationship with God because life will have ups and down so she has to be grounded in her faith to overcome them. 
• A true relationship with God also makes her moral fibers more trustworthy. 
• Other important things are whether I am attracted to her style and personality and we have a natural magnetism. 
• Do me and the girl naturally have a good time in each others presence? 
• Her ambitions and future plan is also very important. 
• Career, location, kids? 
• Her focus or lack thereof to achieve her desired success is also important.
• Her social demeanor: does she carry herself like a queen or is she too friendly with guys?

6. Male, 23

• Their love and respect for God
• The way they treat others
• Also ability to laugh at my corny jokes and 
• The power to uplift me

7. Male, 27 

• Christian
• non-smoker
• sense of humor
• educated
• classy but a lil hood when needed
• family oriented
• good supporter
• adventurous
• cultured
• goal oriented

8. Male, 28

• Physical attribute: 
• Tall and shapely and beautiful to my taste. 
• Nice bubble back there
• Other Attributes: 
• Can't be dirty as far as her upkeep with herself and surroundings, 
• cook and willing to learn Naija foods, 
• respects all my cultures
• Very Important Attributes: 
• God fearing
• faith is stronger than mine and she will help me worship and learn more of God in greater proportion. 
• Also very smart and goal oriented. 
• Driven but knows how to respect the head of the house.

9. Male, 24

1. God fearing: so attractive real talk.
2. Loving: must understand the meaning of true love the way god intended.
3. Supporting: support me in the things that will bring honor to god
4. Independent: someone who has her own mind and is capable of challenging me in a way to reach the best solution and or decision
5. Kind
6. Caring
7. Respectful: someone who respects me as a man and allows me to lead the same way Christ did the church, through love.
8. Encouraging: someone who can encourage me to be my best in everything I do
9. Understanding: someone who aims to understand me.
10. Accepting: someone who accepts my flaws and all.
11. Common interests: for me that is music music music. She must love music.
12. Intelligent and educated
13. Ambitious
14. A dreamer
15. Outgoing: someone to counter my reserved disposition
16. Honest: someone who tells me the truth even if it hurts
17. LOYAL: no matter what she never fades away in times of adversity.
18. Family oriented: family always comes first no matter.
19. Prayerful
20. Forgiving: because I will mess up countless times.
21. Lover: sexually, in the context of marriage.
22. Expressive of her feelings: someone who can express herself that allows for me to learn who she is and adapt to her needs
23. Friend: she must be my best friend.

10. Male, 27

• God fearing and has a heart and love for Christ
• Willing to give and support Gods work: 
• financially, prayerfully, physically, open house
• Attitude of servanthood: 
• in the church, at home, and at other gatherings
• Love God first before me
• Patient, outgoing but reserved in a respectable manner 
• (no need to talk about our bedroom activities with the home girls, flirtatious, “loose”)
• Knows how to take care of home: 
• Cook, clean, hospitable, open house and perform natural God designed woman responsibilities
• Submissive
• Respect for time and money: 
• Willing to live with the basic needs, good credit, cash first credit card never attitude, timely (don’t waste my time painting your face in front of mirror)
• Women of JOY (Jesus first, others second, yourself last)
• Homely
• Understanding and knows how to listen and compromise
• Respectful
• Honest and trustworthy
• Funny
• Lady in the streets but a freak……….

11. Male, 31

1. God fearing with a personal relationship with God
2. Great dress sense
3. Humility
4. A good listener
5. Respectful
6. Compatible
7. Honesty
8. Should know/like praying

12. Male, 28
So my list..I want a woman who is:

• "discerning & beautiful" like Abigail (1 Samuel 25)
• gentle & quiet spirit (2 Peter 3:4)
• one who seeks God's face whole heartedly
• one that understands the changing power of Christ and is willing/wanting to be transformed by Him/His Word (Romans 12:2)
• easy going
• someone that can adapt to many situations
• patient
• considerate
• committed
• understanding
• a woman who understands the Godly roles/order of a house or is willing/wanting to learn
• has family values
• someone that knows how to deal with conflict (conflict resolution skills) 

• Missed an important one.... a woman that can cook! :) lol jk..kinda (can do a little something in the kitchen)

 13. Male, 25

• *country of origin*
• Christian (must have a good and working relationship with God)
• *tribe of country origin*
• At least a 7.5 on the *insert name* scale
• Career orientated
• Must have goals and ambitions
• Laugh at my stupid jokes
• Domesticated (cook, clean, etc…)
• Easy going
• Enjoy experiencing new and different things
• Family oriented
• Did I say good looking, I’m saying it again
• Can and enjoy dancing
• Non clingy
• Tolerate sports

14. Male, 27

• Compatability
• Hospitability
• Trustworthy
• God fearing
• Hardworking
• Understanding
• Forgiving
• Has a sense of humor or appreciates humor
• Affectionate 

15. Male, 25

(in no particular order)

1. Willing to give life up for the Gospel
2. Comfortable living outside of country of origin; potentially as a missionary
3. Can flow well with all types of people
4. Loves to travel
5. Cooking game on point
6. Meek and kind
7. Respectful to parents (her own and mine)
8. Passionate for Jesus and His Word
9. Partner in ministry to others
10. Natural beauty, w/or w/out makeup
11. Excellent with finances and budgeting
12. a giving heart
13. a worshiper